Friday, 20 May 2016

#ExpandCapacity: When Partners Cheat: Who deserves second chances??


1.     the question many are asking is whether a cheating partner deserves a second chance? #ExpandCapacity
2.     When it comes to giving the offender a second (or third or fourth) pardon, where does one draw the line? #ExpandCapacity
3.     The biggest problem with cheating on a partner is not necessarily the sexual liaison itself, but rather the betrayal of trust it causes
4.     This painful rupture of trust in many cases proves too much to get past. #ExpandCapacity
5.     But in others, the partners, when willing and motivated, can sometimes work through this trauma together and salvage their relationship
6.     More often than not, this salvation requires the expertise of a marital counsellor or pastor. #ExpandCapacity

7.     Seeing a pastor or counsellor is certainly no guarantee of successfully saving the relationship. #ExpandCapacity
8.     But, when properly handled, they can help heal the wounds, defuse the anger, foster better communication, and repair the breach of trust.
9.     Of course, much of this depends on how committed to rescuing the relationship both parties really still are, #ExpandCapacity
10.  One of d greatest obstacles to working through dis sort of dicey situation is the hurt, anger n resentment felt by the betrayed partner
11.  These feelings, whatever their roots, need to be openly acknowledged and constructively expressed. #ExpandCapacity
12.  Trust is the glue that holds a relationship together. Love alone is not enough. #ExpandCapacity
13.  Commitment is all about trust: making a promise, a pledge, a choice to say yes to this person and no to any others. #ExpandCapacity
14.  Broken trust is one of the most difficult dynamics to restore in relationships. #ExpandCapacity
15.  Without trust, intimacy suffers. When emotional intimacy dries up. Defensive walls go up! #ExpandCapacity
16.  Communication breaks down. Distance replaces closeness. Resentment festers. Hostility kills kindness and caring. #ExpandCapacity
17.  trust that was broken must be re-established, a delicate process that requires effort, time, motivation and total commitment.
18.  exposed cheater must come completely clean with what happened, take full responsibility for it... #ExpandCapacity
19.  and be prepared to beg the partner's forgiveness for his or her devastating misstep... #ExpandCapacity
20.  Communication skills must be evaluated,improved,and regularly practiced between the couple with a therapist's assistance. #ExpandCapacity
21.  trust must be rebuilt. Trust cannot--and should not-- just be freely given again. #ExpandCapacity
22.  Trust must be earned,gradually re-established by offenders consistently following through faithfully on whatever. #ExpandCapacity
23.  It should be the betrayed party that dictates what will be required for him or her to ever fully trust the offender again.#ExpandCapacity
24.  the offended party will have to reach a point where they can get past their hurt and anger to a place of forgiveness and compassion.
25.  And find the courage to trust again. We all make mistakes. Humans are imperfect beings. #ExpandCapacity
26.  Why should the serial cheater be forgiven or provided a third, fourth or fifth chance? #ExpandCapacity
27.  Generally, men tend to be more able to dissociate their emotions from casual sexual behavior with other women. #ExpandCapacity
28.  whereas women tend to become more emotionally involved and attached. #ExpandCapacity
29.  But, apart from gender, cheating on one's partner is always a betrayal #ExpandCapacity
30.  All of these are relative to the cheating partner...Are they willing to change?? How do you always feel about the crime? #ExpandCapacity
31.  The number of times to forgive a cheating partner depends on you and your conscience.. Pray for wisdom. #ExpandCapacity

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