I keep asking myself “Why go into a Relationship?”
Many people go into relationship for so many reasons. Some
for sex, money, Companionship, possession of a particular person, marriage etc.
Just so many reasons, I even heard a guy say he is in a relationship to boost
his ego; he has never for once been single after his junior secondary school,
so he can’t do without a girl, God knows how many hearts he has broken. Also
heard some ladies go into relationship so they can call a particular guy their
own (Possessive will); to know in their mind that someone loves them. But the
question still remains “What is the ultimate reason for a relationship?” That
reason that would make you say “Yes, I am making the right decision”; Of course
so many of us have different answers to that question. However your answer
determines how long you can stay in the relationship.
Let me share a little story with you;
A beautiful young and
innocent girl still in the university who all she wanted was to hangout out
with friends, but all her friends had a guy to take them out. So she thought
“the only way to have someone take me out is to have a boyfriend”. She finally
met this handsome, charming, gentle and caring guy who unfortunately was just
looking for someone to touch and have a nice time with from time to time. They
became friends and then she got what she wanted, someone who would take her out
when she wants, so she decided to date him. Funny enough the guy knew that was
the main reason the girl decided to date him so he didn't fail on that. The
girl unfortunately fell in love with him, he noticed this and after some months
he decided to ask for what he thinks could keep the relationship- SEX; and that is where the friction
started, (clash of interest). The girl full of emotions who was confused on her
values, was wondering how she got to that stage, of falling in love with this
guy. Of course, she didn't plan to get to that level, all she wanted was a guy
to hang out with and now her heart is broken.
From the story, in relationships both men and women follow slightly
diverted paths. What men look for in a relationship is not what motivates women
to fall in relationships. The differences in desires, mentalities, passion,
expression levels etc., are resulted from some unknown causes; might be
hormonal differences, mindset changes or social concepts. Women take time to be
settled in a relationship, but if settled down, they remain so dedicated and
sacrificing for it; while men jump into relationships so easily and get out of
it with same easiness.
This write up is
basically for women, young women! Sorry guys, but you can also learn from this,
I am trying to let out our little secret of relationship. It is a common nature
of men that mechanical way of life makes them bored and frustrated soon. They
want life like a floating leaf on the surface of water. So ultimately, there
must be something to keep the guy more committed and focused. So your reason of
going to a relationship comes in here.
Many ladies go into
a relationship to avoid being lonely, to match up with their friends in having
a boyfriend, all of which are good reasons if you really want to play, but if you
are really serious of staying in the relationship for long, you have to think
bigger. There are lots of different types of relationship, from casual sex to
marriage. In other contexts, people try relationships out with different
people, and it can take a while for them to find out what they want and what
works for them exactly.
Ultimately, I think
the answer to our question “why go into a Relationship?” should be MARRIAGE!
Although, many of us guys don’t like to hear that in the initial stage of
relationship as it is scary, but really, if the guy wants to love you till the
end, marriage should not scare him. Sorry guys, I just had to say that. Some
people have lots of relationships. Some people have a few or one long one. Some
people don't want a close relationship at certain times in their life. All
relationships are different, but they usually have one thing in common - when
you're in a relationship with someone it usually means that you both like each
other (and fancy each other!) more than anyone else. It is beautiful but how
long do you want it that way??
“Why go into a relationship” is a
question you have to constantly ask yourself if you are about going into one or
already in one. My final statement here will be- It’s completely fine not to be
in a relationship until you are ready!
That’s my take on
this, what do you think? Drop your Comments, thoughts and reservations with me
here.
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