Monday 20 January 2014

MY THOUGHTS ON GOVERNMENT AND HOMOSEXUALITY

Sin often means not only denying God, but also denying the way we are made. when people say that any sex act is acceptable as long as nobody gets hurt,true but what of hurting God. They are fooling themselves. One of the clearest indicators of a society or person in rebellion against God is in the rejection of God's guidelines for the use sex.



Homosexuality was as widespread in Paul's days as it is in ours. God is willing to receive ANYONE WHO COME TO HIM IN FAITH, AND Christians should LOVE and ACCEPT others no matter what their background and 'Orientation'. Yet homosexuality is strictly forbidden.

Many homosexuals believe that their desires are normal and that they have a right to express them. But God does not encourage us to fulfill all our desires. Those desires that violate his laws must be controlled.

Remember, God can and will forgive sexual sins just as he forgives other sins. Therefore I would say sexual sin is not a criminal act. First of all, I would want to know what government term as criminal act. I believe our religious societies or the church should be responsible for the cautioning and correcting of sinful act that doesn't affect the welfare and security of the citizens but goes against God's guideline.

If you are already deeply involved in homosexual behavior, seek help from a trustworthy, professional, Pastoral counselor. Prison terms does not help. I believe our government should be creative enough to know that prison terms cant help stop but proper orientation and lovly correction could help.

Whenever we find ourselves feeling justifiably angry about someone's sin, we should be careful. We need to speak out against sin, but we must do so in a spirit of humility and love because we are not any better. God hates the sin in us but he loves us still. Think about GOD!

Thanks
ODEKUNLE Ifemidayo.

Friday 17 January 2014

OAU: Three Years On Without A Student Union By Kola Ibrahim

Visiting your alma mater brings some nostalgic feelings, of the good and not-so-good times. However, when your former institution of learning seems to be moving from bad to worse, the nostalgia turns to repugnance. This aptly sums up one’s feeling of the state of Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), an institution of which I am proud to be an alumnus. How else can one reconcile the fact that an institution known for vibrant unionism and bubbling student culture is becoming a ghost of its past glories? By next year, a generation of students would have passed through the university without experiencing student unionism! Despite the university hosting the popular Nigerian Universities’ Game (NUGA) next month, students seem detached from any other thing, aside their books, and maybe religious activities. Social activities on campus are at low ebb. Regular public programmes including symposia are few. Added to this is the growing insecurity among students. This is not to mention the constant exploitation of students and introduction of various policies by management at departmental, faculty and hostel levels.
But the unreported and worse cases will be harassment and exploitation of students by fellow students, lecturers and staff. A student activist once informed me of a security staff, who was employed to resolve a case of exploitation of a student by another student, demanding huge bribe and later creaming off restitution that should have been paid to an exploited student. This case reminded me of the sexual harassment issue once handled by our union. A brilliant female student in Political Science Department was harassed sexually by a notoriously randy lecturer. When she resisted the overture of the lecturer, she failed the lecturer’s course. But the lady had an advantage: there was a vibrant student union. She reported the case to the union, which led to unveiling of a serious scandal in the said department. This is a single case among several other cases, even when there was a union. Of course, in the absence of constant vigilance by students, union leaders and activists can become monsters, arrogating authorities unto themselves. But this is tamable; denial of students’ right to unionism makes things worse.

On a recent visit, I tried to engage some students at the bus stop on the state of affairs on campus, and the discussion was revealing. As a result of inadequate transport facilities, poor commercial bus drivers always try to maximize profits by exploiting desperate conditions of students and staff. The frustration of many students and even staff was more about the absence of a student union to put sanity into the chaos. Of course, the students have attempted to get their union back. A protest in late December 2012 for the union restoration forced management to set up, out of panic, a Transition Committee to organize elections. The committee became turncoats days later, parroting management’s excuses for not restoring the union, and by that extending its own lifespan. Surely, the university authorities are sitting on a seething anger of students.
It beats one’s imagination how university management will be comfortably administering an institution without a student union. What if there is an emergency: an epidemic, security crisis, etc, which is better handled with a collective mobilization of students rather than through university directive. However, the answer lies in the degeneracy that has eaten deep into management of education, tertiary education in particular. University administrators, due to lack of democratic running of institutions, have become politicians – desperately scrambling for quick patronages and perks of office. The headship of university is not determined by popular preferences of staff and students, but by circulars from government houses. Therefore, there are desperate struggles to get the attention of the political classes and secure their support, by pledging rotten loyalty to bankrupt political classes. This clearly ensures opposition to academic freedom and democracy but rather promotes to a new height, mediocrity, authoritarian rule, egoism, nepotism, cronyism and corruption.
The leadership of tertiary institutions, more than ever before rely on absolute power to suppress dissent views to its policies. Vibrant and principled student unionism is now seen as anathema by tiny gods of our ivory towers. Rather than engage in debates and discussions, university administrators see themselves as autocrats dishing out one directive or the other, in a paternalistic manner, to students and staff. Behind this egregious situation is the neo-liberal capitalist policy of governments at all levels which aims at cutting to the bones social sector budgets, in order to guarantee more wealth for the “one percent” rich. This may be a global phenomenon but is more grotesque in this part of the capitalist world where neo-colonialism prevails.
This reality is behind the current reactionary development in Great Ife. For instance, the intolerant attitude of the OAU authorities did not start today. In fact, the current three-year old ban on student unionism stemmed from students’ opposition to hike in payable fees e.g. introduction of a ridiculous levy called acceptance fees (N20, 000!) by the out-gone but much-hated Prof. Faborode-led administration. This same administration brutally suppressed unionism and union activists with unprecedented viciousness that only remind one of the jackboot military rule. More than twenty union activists were rusticated at the slightest provocation; three union leaders including the president were rounded up and detained without any sensible allegation, for between four to seven months, while the administration sponsored divide-and-rule tactics to decimate the ranks of progressive student activists. The current administration has maintained this status quo. The current administration has sustained the culture of fear by flooding the campus with secret security staff, whose population is now at a ridiculous high. All this is with the aim of ‘cleansing’ the university of activism. Recently, qualified activists were denied admissions into post-graduate programmes for the same reason.
All this shows how a once vibrant university can become a ghost of its past glories, no thanks to inordinate ambition of university administrators and more importantly, the undemocratic method of administering ivory towers engendered by the neo-liberal regime in place nationally. What is happening in OAU is unfortunately a child’s play to realities in many other higher institutions. This therefore places enormous task on not just students, but also academic and non-academic unions in tertiary institutions to begin a serious campaign and struggle to restore vibrant unionism and more vitally, democracy in our campuses. The ironical part of the story is that the presidency of National Association of Nigerian Students (NANS) is supposedly in the same OAU where there is no student union – an ugly picture of the degeneracy in student movement! As the OAU host this year’s edition of NUGA, one hopes Nigerian students find the time and energy to converge for holistic rejuvenation of once vibrant unionism on our campuses. Oh! Lest I forgot, OAU students are to stay at home during the NUGA events! Did I hear anyone say, “The fear of the students is the beginning of wisdom”?
Kola Ibrahim,
An Alumnus and ex-student activist, is the Osun State Secretary of Socialist Party of Nigeria
P.O.Box 1319, GPO, Enuwa, Ile-Ife, Osun State
08059399178, kmarx4life@gmail.com

Wednesday 15 January 2014

Can I still go ahead with the marriage?



Dear Agatha,

I am in a very big fix. My wedding is only three weeks away but I am finding it very difficult to concentrate on the arrangements or stimulate the necessary excitement towards my bride.

It all started at about a month ago when I ran into my ex girlfriend. When we were in school, I wasn’t too serious about her. Despite everything she did to demonstrate her love for me, I wasn’t too enthralled by her.

A lot of my friends didn’t like the way I was treating her back then, I recall my best friend telling me one day, after she came into my flat, met another girl left in agony and embarrassment at my treatment of her, that I would one day regret my treatment of that girl.

Although she came back after that, I knew something had changed in her. It wasn’t something you can pinpoint but she was not the same woman I knew.

For a while she disappeared. I didn’t bother to look for her because I was glad somehow was at least off my back. A year after, she came to see me in the office to inform me she was getting married. Strangely, I didn’t feel excited at the news. I didn’t like the idea of her getting married or any man coming near her. The feeling was so powerful and strange. I couldn’t explain where it was coming from or the reason for it.

This is a woman. I have never felt a passing interest in a good mate nothing more so why should I have this intense feeling of hatred for the man I don’t even know.

Casting away my gloom, I pretended to be happy for her. I took her out to celebrate but it was a mistake because the food tasted more like ashes in my mouth.

Needless to say, I didn’t attend the wedding. When I told my friend what I was feeling, he didn’t have any sympathy for me. He instead reminded me of my callous treatment of her.

It was a while, four years precisely before I got her picture out of my mind. Once I did, I proposed to the lady I had been dating. It was while shopping in one of those highbrow boutiques I ran into my ex girlfriend.

The moment I saw her, I knew my marriage plans were moribund. I wanted her like I have never wanted any woman. It was then it dawned on me that I have always loved this woman and the only one who has been able to touch me something very deep within me. I realized all that time I wanted her out of my life was because I was afraid to love and fighting my feelings for her.

Hugging her that afternoon did something to me I didn’t know when I planted a big kiss on her lips, which strangely she returned with the same measure of thirst.

We ended up in a fast food outlet where she told me that her marriage packed up six months after it was contracted. She said, she should not have gone into it in the first place. She refused to go further, especially when I asked why she went into the marriage. The man she said has since re married.

Somehow I didn’t want to know I was planning to get married. I was very afraid the information would make her disappear again into thin air. But I didn’t want to lie or hurt her should she get to know after she leaves me. Reluctantly, I told her of my wedding plans. She wished me well but she said she would not be able to make it since she would be out of town that weekend.

Agatha, I have lost interest in my marriage plans. I realize that she will forever be the only woman I love and want. I want her for keeps. My best friend says I should not get married feeling this way for my ex that it was better to disappoint my wife to be than to make her and myself unhappy forever.

My parents have given me go ahead to stop the arrangements if I am sure she is not the right woman for me. My mother says she would rather face the embarrassment now than to have me unhappy.

Agatha, I am a bundle of confusion now. I can’t think straight. Is something wrong with me? Can I still go ahead with the wedding or do you think I should terminate it and marry the woman I am very sure would make me a very good wife. I love my ex with everything in me. Please help me. The wedding with another lady is fixed for Saturday, April 8. I don’t have much time to take a decision.

Edward

Monday 13 January 2014

Story: ” Still Love You


Going to a new school was one of my major fears, which sadly happened. My parents were struggling to make ends meet and had to embark on that drastic action without my consent, just immediately after we downgraded from our 3 bedroom flat to a one-room apartment.
My dad worked top in one of the most prestigious banks in the country, but due to his rather obsequious and humble nature, he was witch-hunted apparently by his colleagues at work- first dropped by ranks and then sacked.
After he was sacked, we struggled to pay recurring bills, and with everything compounding, and my dad’s hypertensive nature kicking in, we had to adjust. That forced the down-grading of our home, and my school.
I was now set to attend a public school.
I perpetually had that phobia of changing my school; leaving my friends- It happened so fast that before I could say Jack- I already resumed schooling activities in this weird place.
My first week in the school was beyond the ordinary. As a fresher, I stayed quiet and kept to myself. Though, occasionally, some set of boys who facially were far older than me came around to taunt me saying words like
” you this femi boy wey be like omo butter (rich kid), you better learn the hard life dude.
I was very scared and worried. I couldn’t tell my parents about this development as they had other predicaments to tackle. So I was determined to bear and face anything that comes, afterall, am a boy.
Due to the adjustments, I was now having to do my personal stuffs by myself without any help. Unlike before when our maids took care of my laundry and woke me up to school.
That faithful monday, the fourth week of my resumption to be precise, I struggled to get out of bed after spending the whole of sunday cleaning and working in the house. After receiving my meager lunch money from my frail dad, I dashed out to school with a stern look on my face.
Unknown to me, a building, adjacent to my school’s dilapidated structure was actually a well recognized private school, I had mistaken for a motel.
They resumed some weeks after my school’s resumption day. And from observations, the students were all from wealthy homes. I continued walking into my school’s premises with my eyes firmly fixed, when a dark; slim and beautiful eyes highlighted from her dad’s company car. She wasn’t looking too happy as I could heard her mum patting her back saying ” Mhosoun, you need to relax, your external exams are coming soon. After that, you will leave this place and travel abroad ”
Those words struck me like a lightning rod, as I remembered my dad saying something positive as that. But that didn’t faze me, I was determined to study hard and get a good job to take care of my family.
Surprisingly, I couldn’t concentrate in class that day. My thoughts were on Mosun- My inner mind reminded me of her beautiful face, dark skin, carefully slimmed hair and revealing eyes. Was I inlove? I hoped not, as I managed to grasp anything the teacher was imparting.
My perpetual journey from school to my home was horrendous. I had to trek for over 30 minutes before joining a bus, then finally a bike, and another 15 minutes walk home.
Being elected class captain obviously because of my calm nature earlier today wasn’t my greatest surprise of the day, but seeing Mosun a stone-throw from my home almost sent shivers down spine. Then, with a shocked look on her face too, she waved at me and entered into her home- a few blocks from my our rented apartment. I almost fainted.

7 Things Men Worry About As Much As Women Do



There are plenty of things men worry about as much as women do, even though sometimes women don’t realize it. We’re all human, so we all have the same set of worries. Here are a few things men worry about that we can all relate to.
1. LOOKS
One of the biggest things men worry about is how their hair and clothes make them come across. Everyone wants to look attractive. He might not spend hours in front of the mirror, like girls do, but he really cares about his appearance and the way he looks.
2. PERSON OF INTEREST
Men care whether women find them attractive or not. They worry about getting rejected, and they get first date jitters. If they’re in a relationship, they worry about whether their partner is happy or looking to leave. Men, women… nobody wants to be broken up with or cheated on.
3. JOYS OF A JOB
Since so much of the week is spent at work, it’s natural for him to be worried about his job. There are deadlines to meet and managers to please. Even if things at work are going well, he’ll worry about the number on his paycheck. Does he have enough to make it through the week? He has to find a way to budget his money, while still splurging on the finer things in life.
4. MATERIAL ITEMS
What kind of car does he drive? Does he share an apartment or have his own place? Everything from the type of phone they have to the brand of sneakers they wear can be scrutinized by others. They want to have the best of everything, because they feel like they’ll be judged if they don’t.
5. WEIGHT
Women aren’t the only ones that the media portrays unfairly. Men are expected to work out in order to be in a good shape. They need muscles to prove how strong they are. If they don’t possess an athletic build, then they’re viewed as ‘unmanly.’ The way they feel they’re supposed to look is stressful for them, just like it is for girls.
6. LONELY OR LIKED
Men care not only about their looks, they also wonder if they’re funny enough, if they’re smart enough, and if they’re tough enough. They don’t want to be ignored by fellow males or rejected by females. It’s natural to want to be liked.
7. FUZZY FUTURE
Will he ever find the perfect woman to marry? Will he have children? Will he secure his dream job? Everyone hopes that there is success in their future. It’s impossible for him to know what’s on the road ahead of him, so he’s going to have doubts.
It turns out that men are not that different from women. We’re all human, so we all have the same basic worries and feelings.

Friday 10 January 2014

2015: Is Jonathan Running Or Not?

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The 2015 general elections are getting closer, and President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan has expectedly been employed several tricks to create some bubbles around his ambition. To some people, he will not run, while to others, he will definitely be part of the race.Goodluck-jonathan Running

As the debates of whether he would run or not continues to gather momentum, the President has remain mute, claiming that he would make his position known at the right time. But his recent comments during a chat with Nigerian diplomats working in the United Nations Economic Commission for Africa, UNECA, and the African Union, AU, in Addis-Ababa, has created more suspense.

During the chat on Tuesday, his comments portray a man speaking from both sides of the mouth. President Jonathan spoke on his second term manifesto, yet, he stylishly said he would not run.

Hear him: “I promise that if voted in for the next four years, I would ensure significant improvement in key sectors of the economy — security, power, education, road, health among others. Without security, there is no government. So it is not debatable, it is something we have to address and we are working towards that with vigour.

But if I’m voted into power within the next four years, the issue of power will become a thing of the past. Four years is enough for anyone in power to make significant improvement and if I can’t improve on power within this period, it then means I cannot do anything even if I am there for the next four years.

“I would have loved that the Nigerians in Diaspora vote this year but to be frank with you, that is going to be difficult now. Presently, the law does not allow the voting outside Nigeria and so this year Nigerians in Diaspora will not vote but I will work towards it by 2015 even though I will not be running for election.”


Could this be a political trick or a real piece of Mr. President’s mind? Keep a date here.